What we search for................

SEARCHING

Nobody ever says this but we are always searching;  Searching for something.

We search for the things that are within and the things that are on the outside.

We search for the things that are visible, that we can touch yet we also search for the unseen.  What can only be felt?

We search for peace, because of what it provides

We search for understanding, to gain wisdom

We search for patience, so we can get the strength to wait.

We search for truth,

We search for guidance, cause in it, we find direction

We search for courage, some to show their worth, while others just to find the will to move on to a new day.

We seek compassion, because it leads us to a road of forgiveness.

Yet we also seek forgiveness, because it leads us to freedom.

We all seek riches and wealth , some; because of the security it provides , the endless assurance of always being good, better, best, without ever having to worry about a day when it will be bad. Others seek them because they are a way out. A way out of the life we have, and in to the life we want. While others do it for the power.

LOVE

And others search for love. That endless feeling that beats deep within our hearts;  That which if could be described, no amount of words could quantify. We search for that of which we hear and many of us never see, or worse, take for granted. We search for love for many reasons. Reasons that even surpass the number of stars in the sky yet all of us have one thing in common. That we all search for love because we understand, sooner or later, that love is everything.

People spent their entire lives searching for one or more of this things. While to others, it just happens. We live our live hopping one day that we find what we are searching for. That one thing that will make it all worth it. The strangles, the pains, the heartbreaks. The rumors , haters and even the long sacrifices.

Last year I found what most people dream of finding. I found courage, peace, freedom and love.

PEACE

When we find what we search for, we have a since of change that follows us. A change that prompts us to prepare for more. More change. More things to look forward to. Iv changed  and that’s no lie. And i'm hopping to change even more in to the man I destined to be.

 That’s why this year, will be my year of EVOLUTION(change).

Nine Things Successful People Do Differently

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Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren't sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to understanding why they succeed or fail. The intuitive answer — that you are born predisposed to certain talents and lacking in others — is really just one small piece of the puzzle. In fact, decades of research on achievement suggests that successful peoplereach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do.

1. Get specific. When you set yourself a goal, try to be as specific as possible. "Lose 5 pounds" is a better goal than "lose some weight," because it gives you a clear idea of what success looks like. Knowing exactly what you want to achieve keeps you motivated until you get there. Also, think about the specific actions that need to be taken to reach your goal. Just promising you'll "eat less" or "sleep more" is too vague — be clear and precise. "I'll be in bed by 10pm on weeknights" leaves no room for doubt about what you need to do, and whether or not you've actually done it.

2. Seize the moment to act on your goals. Given how busy most of us are, and how many goals we are juggling at once, it's not surprising that we routinely miss opportunities to act on a goal because we simply fail to notice them. Did you really have no time to work out today? No chance at any point to return that phone call? Achieving your goal means grabbing hold of these opportunities before they slip through your fingers.
To seize the moment, decide when and where you will take each action you want to take, in advance. Again, be as specific as possible (e.g., "If it's Monday, Wednesday, or Friday, I'll work out for 30 minutes before work.") Studies show that this kind of planning will help your brain to detect and seize the opportunity when it arises, increasing your chances of success by roughly 300%.

3. Know exactly how far you have left to go. Achieving any goal also requires honest and regular monitoring of your progress — if not by others, then by you yourself. If you don't know how well you are doing, you can't adjust your behavior or your strategies accordingly. Check your progress frequently — weekly, or even daily, depending on the goal.

4. Be a realistic optimist. When you are setting a goal, by all means engage in lots of positive thinking about how likely you are to achieve it. Believing in your ability to succeed is enormously helpful for creating and sustaining your motivation. But whatever you do, don't underestimate how difficult it will be to reach your goal. Most goals worth achieving require time, planning, effort, and persistence. Studies show that thinking things will come to you easily and effortlessly leaves you ill-prepared for the journey ahead, and significantly increases the odds of failure.

5. Focus on getting better, rather than being good. Believing you have the ability to reach your goals is important, but so is believing you can get the ability. Many of us believe that our intelligence, our personality, and our physical aptitudes are fixed — that no matter what we do, we won't improve. As a result, we focus on goals that are all about proving ourselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills.
Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong — abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. Embracing the fact that you can change will allow you to make better choices, and reach your fullest potential. People whose goals are about getting better, rather than being good, take difficulty in stride, and appreciate the journey as much as the destination.

6. Have grit. Grit is a willingness to commit to long-term goals, and to persist in the face of difficulty. Studies show that gritty people obtain more education in their lifetime, and earn higher college GPAs. Grit predicts which cadets will stick out their first grueling year at West Point. In fact, grit even predicts which round contestants will make it to at the Scripps National Spelling Bee.
The good news is, if you aren't particularly gritty now, there is something you can do about it. People who lack grit more often than not believe that they just don't have the innate abilities successful people have. If that describes your own thinking .... well, there's no way to put this nicely: you are wrong. As I mentioned earlier, effort, planning, persistence, and good strategies are what it really takes to succeed. Embracing this knowledge will not only help you see yourself and your goals more accurately, but also do wonders for your grit.

7. Build your willpower muscle. Your self-control "muscle" is just like the other muscles in your body — when it doesn't get much exercise, it becomes weaker over time. But when you give it regular workouts by putting it to good use, it will grow stronger and stronger, and better able to help you successfully reach your goals.
To build willpower, take on a challenge that requires you to do something you'd honestly rather not do. Give up high-fat snacks, do 100 sit-ups a day, stand up straight when you catch yourself slouching, try to learn a new skill. When you find yourself wanting to give in, give up, or just not bother — don't. Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they occur ("If I have a craving for a snack, I will eat one piece of fresh or three pieces of dried fruit.") It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier, and that's the whole point. As your strength grows, you can take on more challenges and step-up your self-control workout.

8. Don't tempt fate. No matter how strong your willpower muscle becomes, it's important to always respect the fact that it is limited, and if you overtax it you will temporarily run out of steam. Don't try to take on two challenging tasks at once, if you can help it (like quitting smoking and dieting at the same time). And don't put yourself in harm's way — many people are overly-confident in their ability to resist temptation, and as a result they put themselves in situations where temptations abound. Successful people know not to make reaching a goal harder than it already is.

9. Focus on what you will do, not what you won't do. Do you want to successfully lose weight, quit smoking, or put a lid on your bad temper? Then plan how you will replace bad habits with good ones, rather than focusing only on the bad habits themselves. Research on thought suppression (e.g., "Don't think about white bears!") has shown that trying to avoid a thought makes it even more active in your mind. The same holds true when it comes to behaviour — by trying not to engage in a bad habit, our habits get strengthened rather than broken.

If you want to change your ways, ask yourself, What will I do instead? For example, if you are trying to gain control of your temper and stop flying off the handle, you might make a plan like "If I am starting to feel angry, then I will take three deep breaths to calm down." By using deep breathing as a replacement for giving in to your anger, your bad habit will get worn away over time until it disappears completely.

It is my hope that, after reading about the nine things successful people do differently, you have gained some insight into all the things you have been doing right all along. Even more important, I hope are able to identify the mistakes that have derailed you, and use that knowledge to your advantage from now on. Remember, you don't need to become a different person to become a more successful one. It's never what you are, but what you do.

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. is a motivational psychologist, and author of the new book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals (Hudson Street Press, 2011). She is also an expert blogger on motivation and leadership for Fast Company and Psychology Today. Her personal blog, The Science of Success, can be found at www.heidigranthalvorson.com. Follow her on Twitter @hghalvorson

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The Traveller

In every journey the traveler must ask

.............."what is the right path taken?"

Many roads are long and winding filled with those that have lost their way.

Some forge their own course ,guided by faith,seeking not a location,but a kindred soul.

Others step together , finding safety in the arms of another.

Few remove themselves from the trail,to avoid the path of temptation .

But those who watch the road too closely fail to see where it lead them.
They are often too surprised of their destination.

HEROES SN 3 " Mohinder Suresh "

When You Find Them.

Everyday of our lives we meet people,
We chat, we talk, we share.
But its not everyday that we find that someone.

When we open our hearts to impossibilities,
We love them , we care for them, we think of them.
We hate when they hart us. Yet forgive them when they apologies
Sometimes ..... we don't know.
We just follow because we don't understand them.
Yet given the opportunity we would never be away from them,
We would bind ourselves to their hearts
And blend our souls into one.
We dream of them and when the day comes
Its often to quick
Because some dreams should never end.

We look to a future we have not see
Yet we are bound to our present,
Because the present is what we have with them.
We want to give them everything
Yet to our eyes,
Nothing could ever be enough, to show them what we feel.


So when you find that someone.
That someone who makes you want to become a greater person than you are,
That person that we define our lives with,
Our future, our legacy, our all.
When you find them
Take that time,
Look them in the eye and tell them
That you LOVE THEM!!!!!

........................................DEDICATED TO MY SPECIAL SOMEONE.

The Chapter of New Beginings

DEAR DIARY:

Chapter : My Year of New Beginnings.

Last year was my year of discovery & this is what i discovered :................

10.that sometimes life is only as complicated as you chose to make it.

9. sometime living doesn't mean running away, sometimes its looking for a good enough reason to stay.

8. that the best person u can grow up to be is yourself

7. the greatest ability that GOD ever gave man is the ability to love and know that u r also loved.

6. that GOD has his own unique way of teaching us what he wants us to learn, its just that we sometime don't understand it, thus we become scared if it.

5. that being free means learning to let go.

4. to never be afraid : GOD is waiting for u, all you have to do do is move. so I DARE U TO MOVE...... you will be amazed with how far he can take u.

3. that we are more than the sums of my choices and the mistakes that we make.

2. that the most beautiful person i have ever seen is MY BLUE TIGER.

1. that its hard starting a new life, and seeing and learning new things, but the beauty of it is that, God tells us, he is with us every step of the way.

There is more that i learned but that is what i have to share :That being last year : I thank the lord for it.

I guess now all i can do dedicate this year to the lord : Because it's ....MY YEAR OF NEW  BEGINNINGS.
Thank you.